I think it's strange that men are usually expected to be responsible for both their own and their partner's orgasm. It puts a lot of pressure on them which is neither fair nor natural. From a biological viewpoint there is a natural emphasis on the male orgasm as that always had more on a function. While it is nice to have an orgasm, purely biologically his has much more importance.

We have sex for different purposes: for reproduction of course but at least as much for pleasure and social reasons. I think outside of reproduction, which is mainly something you plan nowadays, in general men are more focused on pleasure (the orgasm, both their own as the one of the woman as they think she thinks it's as important as he does) while for most women the social part is more important. The social function of sex is for example the feeling of togetherness and love and closeness you get from it.

So in a more natural order there would be much more emphasis on the male orgasm. That's isn't purely for the biological reasons in terms of reproduction but also for the pleasure part (men have a higher libido on general than women) and social part (men get frustrated when they don't orgasm frequently). That also explains why on average men are usually the more active, dominant and initiators of sex while women tend to be more passive, submissive and the ones who decide whether or not sex will happen.

I like to talk about sex more than I like to do thinks like roleplays or anything like that. I like to have a conversation about sex. Preferably in my mother tongue Dutch but English is also an option. I don't see my viewpoints as anti-women, so not looking for that angle, I see myself as a realist and pragmatic. Anyway, see you in the chat!

About me: I'm 25 years old, from the Netherlands. I have a boyfriend who knows I talk here, and have had relationships in the past. I only had sex within a relationship although I did hand stuff outside a relationship. I'm looking for a conversation, not to horn you up and not for an RP. That conversation can create arousal and that can lead somewhere but it's not the initial goal as it is to talk about sex, it's role, preferences and experiences.