Hello,

I have gotten some good responses so far to my other posts, I appreciate all those who have taken time to respond.

Today I am curious about the dynamics between power, desire, and control. Obviously there has been a lot about this in erotic/kink communities, but I was hoping to get a feminine perspective. In most societies, men see a woman, the woman’s beauty or behavior inspires lust, and the man acts on it in one way or the other.

Sometimes we see women harness this, as demonstrated in the femme fatale stereotype, the queen bee, the controlling and comforting “mother”, the unassuming bimbo, etc. In a sort of reversal the woman controls men through their lack of control when it comes to lust and bodily desires. I know there is a debate in kink communities where the sub is really in charge in some cases because they “decide” what happens and the dom is following that in a sense.

I would like to hear from some fem people about how they feel about the aspect of inspiring and controlling men through their desires. Do you see men’s reactions and enjoy it? Do you like making them have trouble controlling themselves and/or lose control? Do you like making them want you knowing they can’t do anything about it? Frustration, motivation, chasing, anger, desperation, affection, all of the emotions can be present. I’d like to know if that is what you think about.

I know some women love to make a man lose it and fuck the shit out of them. If that is you, I’d love to hear about it. But if not, I would also like to hear from you. We could also play through and analyze a scenario.

One that has captivated me;

One where you can be anyone, although I find more true to life and true to you characters better, and I play a normal man. You are someone who enjoys men lusting after them, or at least knows it can happen and is aware of the desires directed at you. You could be a slut who uses it and satisfies themselves with whatever man they want, or a more conservative and humble girl who keeps to herself and is more into serious relationships. Whatever so long as you can read men and know what makes them tick in terms of carnal desire.

The character I would write/play is a man who is enjoying being relatively free of those desires. Maybe he was a kind of loser guy who would be desperate for any crumb of attention given to him from a woman. Maybe he was a popular guy who had a lot of attention and casual relationships himself. Maybe he is a guy who just had his heartbroken and only ever knew one girl like that. The idea being that he has realized that the rat race of letting yourself feel attracted to everybody that passes by is bad for your mind and he should try and not let himself sexualize everyone like society teaches him. So giving up on seeing women sexually for a bit has brought him some peace of mind.

I’d like to have your character enter and see this. I am curious to see how you’d react and why, to see how you’d go through breaking down this resistance and why. I think the dynamic is fun and a bit of a classic will they won’t they, but with a more psychological bend.

If my prompt spoke to you let me know! I am open and easy. If you did and I didn’t respond I may have fallen asleep, so don’t worry.