Therapist here, I had an experience with a client recently that kind of kickstarted this kink for me. One of my black clients would frequently call his social worker in my office. Which is totally normal except that she had no boundaries with him. When she would pick up the phone, through a smile he'd say "Hey beautiful" and "Have a great day!". After his first call, he told me how beautiful she was and that it was a shame she was married. I was taken aback by how she let him talk to her like that. She would laugh it off, but it sounded like it was a mix of childish giggles, uncomfortability, and being flattered. Admittedly I looked her up after and I did find her attractive myself, a young strawberry blonde with cute freckles. Whenever they'd make calls, I felt just like a third wheel. The most overt that he got though was when he told her to let him know if the marriage doesn't work out. I never brought myself to address his behavior, but it also turned me on listening to him make passes at her like this. I felt emasculated having to listen to this confident guy flirt with this woman while I awkwardly sit there. Then, to tell me all about how fine she was after she hung up. It was like he was establishing dominance by giving me a recap of this manly thing he just did. Comments like that are something I take pride in addressing at work because I don't feel like staff should have to put up with those comments. But since she was outside of our facility, I didn't say anything. I expected her too. But he would just cross the line over and over and she would just laugh and let it go. I would never have the courage, ability, or confidence to talk to women that way. I could feel his presence, big dick energy. Realistically I know plenty of women wouldn't like this kind of attention. But when you factor in confidence/attractiveness for guys like him, I wonder if more women than I think would be open to it. It was thrilling to watch how casually a lover could be won over by this charm and even entertain the attention. I can't help but imagine that her and I were both getting aroused by him flirting with her.

With that event comes a whole host of mixed thoughts, feelings, and old memories. I'm looking to talk to women who are into humiliation and femdom that are interested in chatting with a submissive or "beta" man. I present as masculine, I'm fit, and I'm capable of having normal conversations with women on here. Hope to hear from you.