I absolutely adore stories that involve blurring the boundaries between open relationships, causal dating, and plain old hotwifing. I love that cocktail of anxiety, jealousy and curiosity as I wait at home, wondering how my girlfriend's date is going....and whether or not she'll make it home after dinner.

That said, I'm not really into the kind of scandalous, sneak-around-behind-my-back cheating. I find that there's a lot more emotional tension in a situation where we've agreed to it, but I can't help a sense of smoldering jealousy. Perhaps we've talked about it in advance, such as....

• It's not cheating if her ex is back in town.
  
• It's not cheating if we're long distance at the moment
  
• It's not cheating if she's on vacation
  
• It's not cheating because we're not yet "official"
  
• It's not cheating if she's rehearsing for a play(<--Favorite!)
• It's not cheating because she's dating several people
  
• It's not cheating because we just met
  
• It's not cheating if they just make out a little
  
• It's not cheating if he's her work-husband
  
• It's not cheating if one of us is out of town
  
• It's not cheating if she's being paid

Now, a lot of the responses I get don't exactly click with what I'm looking for. A lot of the women I meet on here want to roleplay some sort of porn scene, where the girl has lots of nasty sex and comes home looking like a mess. What I'm looking for is more like erotica than pornography: a charming, sensual affair, where my girl enjoys a budding romance with a cool guy. Sure, there will eventually be smut....but there will also be lots of coy flirting, light touches, exquisite detail, a shared sense of yearning when their eyes meet....

And, also, a sense of emotional tension when she gets home, a mild guilt as she returns to our bed....even there's a voice that reminds her she really has nothing to be guilty about. And me, her boyfriend, doing his best to be supportive and positive about his girlfriend's romantic adventure....while at the same time burning with curiosity as he imagines them together.

No chats, please.