So I am borderline diabetic ... numbers were just over the line, and it was easily brought down by changes in my diet. I'm still continuing to learn and adapt and make changes, but mostly I feel good about my progress.

I am in a relatively new relationship (18 months, long distance). This is BIG DEEP LOVE. I'm 65, maybe the biggest love ever. Super healthy, loving, hot relationship, deep communication, great sex, lots of laughter, and also lots of tears because both of us have had a hard and painful life with way too much death.

My partner was also diagnosed with diabetes, right about the same time oddly enough. She is a BIG sweet tea drinker. Everytime she drinks tea I feel like I am going to burst out crying. That sounds dramatic, but here's the situation. She has a heart condition, has had heart attacks, and is minimally interested in making the kind of changes she needs to make in order to live a long/er life.

She also processes "slow." Meaning she is just someone that takes time to let information in. I'm the opposite ...medical junkie with access to medical journals. I am a big researcher, and fast adapter when it comes to my health.

She know how I feel. I have been clear with her that there is a limit to "how close" I can be with her because I know that if she continues eating the way she does (not terrible, but not what she needs to do to address her health concerns), and keeps drinking sweet tea (as in a quart a day) and other sweet drinks, it is just a matter of time before he lowish numbers go up, and I can imagine a cascade of medical issues ensuing. Oh she is on farxiga. I was able to enourage that after 5 months of suggesting, support, cajoling and our only "fight" ever.

She listens when I talk. Makes some minor changes. Thinks about it. Sees my fear and sadness, but of course it is her life to live as she chooses, which I 100% believe. How to let in the biggest bestest love ever, and accept where she is at, and protect my heart that has had so much loss and pain? This feels like such a conundrum.

I don't think there is lots of words of wisdom here...mostly venting. Feeling sad tonight.