Androgyny can make people pretty uncomfortable.

I look very androgynous physically. I've gained weight, I've lost weight. I've put on different clothes, I can put on makeup. I am just super androgynous, always have been even since I was a little girl. Nobody knows why, I asked my mother before if I was intersex and she had kept it a secret from me my whole life. I've talked to doctors, asked to be tested for PCOS, but they just said I have normal hormone levels. I have a period.

I freak people out just by using the women's bathroom. People confidently say to me "this is the women's." It happens at least every few months.

And it's just like...ok, what do you want me to do? Lie about my sex? Again, I am really androgynous. Maybe if I wore more overt female clothing, kept my hair long in a feminine style...and wore a covid mask...maybe then people wouldn't think twice if they saw me in a women's restroom. I'm not kidding though, it isn't just a matter of wearing a women's shirt or a man's shirt. I would really have to go out my way, and honestly, people might still think I was a dude.

But as it is, I mean, I have a big butt and hips small feet and skinny arms, but I could just waltz into the men's. No one would care. Maybe they would assume I'm a trans guy, maybe that wouldn't even cross their minds.

It would be so much easier.

There were a couple of times in my life when I expressed that I was having doubts about my gender and that I was going to transition. One of my friends in particular was just so happy. Like omgosh, please yes, you're such a dude, I knew it. You're so handsome etc. etc.

Anyway, this is just one of the many many reasons a female might feel like society wants them to transition to male. This isn't even getting into just the general way society treats males and females, values males and females. This is just--I'm an unusually androgynous person, and I can sense from the world around me that it bothers people. And not only that, it's that I'm not even pressured as much to look more girly (when I was a child I kind of was), I'm pressured to just take my masculinity up a couple of notches so I can pass as a guy more completely.