i detransitioned 5 years ago. i often have people asking me for my pronouns or mistaken me as male. it doesnt really bother me when i get pronouns asked because i know its just someone trying to be respectful. but it also wears on me after a while.

i dress feminine most of the time, i have long hair and im not small chested. but i also have a lower voice that i make no effort to conceal, facial hair that i dont shave (not a full beard i dont have a mustache but theres a lot on the sides of my face and chin), i dont wear makeup, im tall, and i also dont wear bras. so even though i am larger, if im wearing baggier clothes theyre not the most noticeable.

its possible that if some of these things were to change, like starting to wear makeup, i would have a different experience but im not even really sure about that still. and plus theyre changes im not willing to make. ive thought about buying a venus symbol pendant though and wearing that always, it could help somewhat. its just kind of frustrating after a while. ive also had similar but more hostile experiences where ive gotten very blatantly called sir in a derogatory way.

im not looking for advice really, because as ive said the only ways i could try to do something about it arent things i want to do. but do any of you have similar experiences post detransition?