So recently, my ex and I had a very messy break up (since July) and due to events, we talked again but after being informed of things, I have cut him from my life. One thing that makes me insecure and depressed is the feeling of being pitied. I hate it. When someone lies to me but only engages with me due to pity, it makes me feel like am I not good enough that my personality should be why you want to spend time with me. Due to him seeing me out of pity and enjoying that I needed him and wanted him, any feelings I had, I used to cut him off. We are not longer talking, have mutual friends and since our break up I feel good in saying I don’t miss him and feel slightly better without him