My wife and I have been married for 26 years. We've been together for going on 30 this year. Within the last decade I was diagnosed with major depression including a hospitalization due to ST. I've got a fairly decent handle on my depression meaning that it is managable right now but it has all but eliminated my ability to achieve or maintain an erection and as to orgasms. well. As austin powers said. That train has sailed. Now I'm normally a very giving lover and don't mind if my wife is the only one able to achieve when it was just Orgasm issues. But now that it's become ED as well the only way I can please my wife is orally, and I LOVE doing that, but there is ZERO reciprocation in the foreplay and touch department. That has always been a thing in our marriage. I just feel so unwanted and worthless.

Add in the fact that I was recently diagnosed with ADHD inattentive and am finally seeing how that has affected my whole life and coming to deal with that. Our kids heading off to college and the fact that my wife doesn't really enjoy anything that I do, and at some points has mocked me for some of my hobbies. I have convinced myself that not only can I not perform, but that she really would just prefer to be with another person. I've talked to my Psychiatrist about med changes for going on 3 years and he just finally prescribed wellbutrin in addition to the Venlafaxine in order to address the ED issue. He joked with me when it was just anorgasmia that well women like being with a man who can last longer. Doc my wife has NEVER wanted to have sex past her first vaginal orgasm. so Thanks pal! I honestly am at my wits end. I don't want to go off the meds because I'm afraid the ST will come back. Even moreso with the dead bedroom situation. I just hate this.

Disclaimer There are several underlying factors for our dead bedroom but having ED and being unable to orgasm is pretty damn Big one