36 M, married, with kids. We once had an open marriage, but reluctantly not anymore. In my open married, I thrived--the excitement of a new lover as well as the stability of someone for whom I care deeply for and intend to spend the rest of my life with. It was nice to be with a partner that saw me for who I am now, not who I was when I was 25. I find myself searching for something and I have an endlessly optimistic view so here it goes.

It is an interesting place to be in life, to put forth effort to search for an affair, and being a man doing so, seems so cliche'. To meet someone through happen chance--A person that ignites a spark like you were struck by lightning, that you can't help but think about and want to talk to endlessly and be close to hem and for those feelings to be returned is an amazing thing. A feeling I've felt many times. It seems to be an addiction for me. To set out with a goal of an affair feels on Reddit, feels... different.

I’m looking for someone in my general age group. Someone who is a professional and is married with a child. Someone who, like me, has no plans to leave their spouse, at least not while the kids are home, but misses sex and romance and spark.

I’m smart, successful professionally, I can make people laugh easily, and have youthful charm I'm handsome and have a nice smile (or so I'm told) I’m tall, broad shouldered and athletic (former college football player).

The women I'm attracted to are smart, self assured. Sardonic sense of humor is a must. Physically, I’m most attracted to a woman’s smile, then probably her tail.

In the interests of full disclosure, I’m not looking to meet up right away and turn this into something physical. I’m not going to be sending photos of my face, or really any body parts, right away. I’d like to keep things anonymous for a while. If you’re looking for a quick lay, you should definitely keep scrolling.

If you’re like me, though, if you want to talk to a person of the opposite sex who understands your situation, but you want to do it without pressure and without worrying about revealing yourself right away and getting caught, if you’re hoping that it could potentially ripen into something else, please message me. Tell me your age. Tell me about a great book you’ve read recently or a musical artist you’re really into these days. Tell me what you look for in a man. Just tell me a bit about you!