Consent, awareness, trust, and attunement are key components of a quality anr expreience. Suckling intuitively means slowing down with your partner, feeling dropped in together, and in deep alignment together. Time should feel like it doesn't exist for both of you. You both should feel same and familiar with each other. I'm going to go over some basics, by no means is this exhaustive or complete, but it's a decent place to start that has lead to repeatably immaculate sessions for me. Women, please share your thoughts and experiences as well of whats important to you and what works well for you. Suckler, share your experience too.

Your mindset and physical setting should be at peace, calm, free of clutter, comfortable, and absent of the concept of time. You should know your anr partner well. If it's your first time, you ahould have already vetted each other well - talking on an app/ texting for a hit to get to know each other and what you're hoping for. If that all felt good, meet at a cafe to see the person you've been getting to know. Spend some time getting to know them, a bit about their life, sharing a bit about yours. If you don't feel comfortable with the person, politely let them know. You dont need to dwell if something doesnt feel like its working. This can be scary, so that's why it's reccomended to be somewhere public with people around like a cafe.

Assuming everything went well, a conversation about when to meet can occur. When meeting up, chose a location that facilitates comfort, relaxation, trust and privacy. Maybe one of your homes. Be sure you have a few hours at least to spend together. This is not a process to rush or squeeze into your schedule. When you have a better relationship you can refine timing needs to what works for you both.

Spend some time in your environment talking, relaxing, and eventually offering light touch with consent. Ease into being a little closer together. If you feel nervous or uncomfortable, don't ignore it. Spend some more time taking it slow and see if it goes away. There's no outcome needed, just both of you feeling relaxed in your bodies and feeling good together.

After you've spent some time together, you may find a good segway into things by startingwith some calming massage or touch on the body to help you both drop in, refraining from touching her boobs for a bit. Slow, light or medium pressure, letting your skin glide over hers. It should have a buttery soft feel. Coconut oil helps if you feel friction or dry. Spend time here and notice when somatic (deep body) trust occurs.

One you both feel that both of your nervous systems have dropped in pretty deep, you ready to see if you'd like to go farther. Gradually shifting some soft touch closer to her chest and providing gentle, soothing touch keeping away from her nipples for now. Caress her around the sides, bottoms, in between, and on the tops of her breasts. Check in and see how she feels. You should be able to read how she feels about the touch she's receiving. If you're not sure, ask her. For women, it helps men when you give intuitive moments or gentle cues to guide us to where you'd like us. This can be moving your torso, touching our arms/hands, or anything else that helps us know where you'd like touch. Once youre both slowed down even more and feel very in tune, move a little closer to her areolas. Spend tome time here gliding your touch around the areas without actually touching them. Gentleness with her breast is key. Give her variety, but don't change things too quick. Try out different pressure, patterns, pace, placement, angle, and anything else that comes intuitively. Cycle gradually, listening for which ones feel nice to her. It should be just as much your intuition as your attunement to her. If anything doesn't feel right, you need to say something and perhaps move back a few steps.

At this point you might be an hour in and you still haven't put your mouth on a nipple. Perfect! She needs her body to feel present, safe, and comfortable and she needs yours to do that too.

When she begins to push your head towards her nipple, she's ready for them to get your attention. Start gently. Feel. Are they soft, hard? Thick or thin? Stretchy or stiffer? How does her nipple feel in your mouth - imagine it's 3d shape as you feel her nipple and breast tissue with your mouth. Imagine her milk tubes, areolas, and the tip of the mound of milk ducts. Feel the nipple and breast tissue as you pull it into your mouth. How is she feeling? Verbal, non verbal? Pressing your head to her chest or her chest to your face? How do you two feel together?

Deep awareness and presence are so important, yet easily missed by many.

Breasts are very responsive to an intuitive mouth. They will change in feeling during your session if you're doing things right. How they feel in your mouth and hand will change, as well as how they feel to her. She may be sensitive or not so much. Both are completely normal, respect her breasts either way.

I won't go talk about suckling technique, that deserves its own post. I'm curious to hear what works for you, what you prefer, and what has lead to good or bad experiences.