Hey there folks. My spouse and I have been together 8 years and there are a few things that kind of give me the impression that he might be demisexual.

He tends not to find beautiful sexy women sexually appealing. I'm a bi woman and every so often we'll be watching a movie or a show and I'll be like 'wow, look at that lady! What a babe!' And he'll sort of respond by saying 'yeah, she's pretty I guess'. When I ask him who his celebrity crushes are he never has an answer for me.

He does watch porn on occasion but if we're watching it together he can't tell me what he likes about a girl in a scene. He says he just likes the 'action'.

Those two things could just be him trying to spare my feelings, but...

The way he describes casual sexual encounters of the past he got no enjoyment out of them. I don't mean they went badly, to hear him tell of it, just that he felt no excitement in it at all, and he mainly went into it out of flattery and curiosity. He's a very handsome guy and I know women used to flirt with him a lot, but he rarely wanted to go through with it. My casual sexual encounters ranged from disappointing to awesome and when I was single I definitely got a thrill out of being with new people, if nothing else.

He also has had very few crushes in his life before me (or since, I think). Like verrrryyyy few. And those he did have he didn't seem super motivated to sleep with them. When we began dating it seemed like his sexual attraction deepened the closer we got. I did all the initiating of everything.

There's also the matter that he basically cannot really seem to tell me which features he likes in a woman. Hair, eye color, body type, bustiness... I've asked and he has no answer. But he can tell me what clothes and makeup and stuff he really likes on me, enjoys my boobs and butt, tells me I'm beautiful and sexy. And he does like sex quite a bit and can get turned on easily by me.

Do you think it's okay if I ask him if he's demisexual? Maybe open up a conversation? Do you think from what I've described he sounds like he is?