First time poster. I'm the caretaker for my dad (37f and 72m), I'm not sure exactly when my dad started to require full time care. I was here for a while to keep an eye on him. Now he needs full time care, though I can leave for a few hours at a time.

My dad and I are both very impatient, and often get into yelling fights. I really want to help, but I feel like I'm not the right person much of the time. He's my dad, and I love him, but I'm not sure I'm helping, or making things better.

Does anyone else feel like this? Like you aren't the right person? It's either me or hired care. My siblings don't want to send my dad anywhere, and I don't think he is at that point, yet. I just feel so tired, though.

A little bit about my family, I'm the youngest of three and receive disability for several chronic health issues. My brother and sister are both successful, and tend to just throw money at problems. My sister comes over for about an hour a week now (masks and social distancing is something I require from her). My brother is normally only here once a year because he lives three hours away. He normally comes for the holidays, that didn't happen this year because of COVID. I'm hoping he will come some other time in 2021.