My grandma is 93, will be 94 on July 1st this year. My dad, 63, is her live in caretaker, and also has a caretaker from Tuesday-Saturday during his work hours to help her out. Her dementia is getting worse and worse and it's making my dad beyond irritable and at this point in time, he wishes for her to pass away... It makes me mad that when he's having a bad day because of her dementia, he makes it everyones problem... This past week she got mad at me for squishing a decorative pillow to use as a neck support as we all just relaxed in the living room, and since then, my dad's been a massive asshole about it. Like not caring if she eats, not caring about if she needs anything, and general apathy towards her... I've told him so many times he needs to seek a support group of people who are dementia caretakers, but he fucking refuses. I'm at my wits end with him acting like a dickhead towards me, my grandma, and her caretaker. I'm in Albuquerque, New Mexico if anyone in here has any information on support groups that are local... He also has a therapist but she's currently on maternity leave and he's also been an asshole since finding that out, too. I'm 24 and just trying to help my family and it's seriously putting a massive strain on my relationships with my family and myself...