Throwaway account for obvious reasons. I’ve tried to keep it short, but please bear with me. Would really appreciate any help here!

I (28F) got married to my husband (28M) almost six months ago after dating him for two years, and our sex life has been non-existent, quite literally. While we’re big on hugs, kisses and cuddles, we’ve only gone as far as making out and it’s gotten concerning now.

Quick background - Things progressed very naturally and smoothly in our relationship, and we didn’t feel the need to communicate per se about physical intimacy. Just like everything else, I thought it would flow naturally. My husband is very affectionate (with physical touch being one of his love languages), and the sweetest and kindest humans out there with so many amazing qualities that I never prioritised it, nor did I feel the need to.

Fast forward to today, it’s been almost six months to our marriage and here I am wondering what’s stopping him. I understand, initially we were settling in but now it has started to bother me. So much so that I’ve been thinking to bring it up with him and this happened.

A few days ago, in the middle of the night while I was half asleep, I heard something. Weirdly enough, my husband has a habit of shaking his feet in deep sleep and I naturally thought that was it. I turned slightly with my eyes half open and realised my husband was jerking off probably watching porn. This continued for the next five nights (and counting), where I’m half asleep (or let’s just say pretending to be asleep cause I love my husband and want to give him the benefit of doubt) and would realise he is masturbating while I lay next to him.

I’ve been sad, overwhelmed, baffled - everything at the same time. I find myself overthinking a lot of things throughout the day. Why would he want to jerk off watching random women online instead of having sex with his wife?

How do I confront him about the lack of physical intimacy? And when I do, should I bring this up at all? I want to be very respectful and don’t intend to sound accusatory in any manner.

Tldr; 6 months married but husband hasn’t initiated sex. A few days ago, I heard him jerking off watching porn at night while he thought I was asleep. And it continued for the next five nights. Why would he choose to masturbate over having sex with his wife? How do I confront him?