I’m a 60 year old man, married for almost 30 years, a grown adult child, career in a Wall Street firm. Outwardly, I have everything I could wish for, however, what I am missing is attention and focus. My wife has a big family and all within 20 mile radius. From the very beginning I felt like I’m living. In a fish bowl, everyone looking and prodding. It all started with dead living room, dining room, vacations, life stages and finally 10-12 years ago ended with completely dead bedroom.

I suggested therapy, nice vacations, changed houses and tried everything possible but I could not revive what had died. Every weekend she is busy with her large family, every evening it’s the phone calls. Therapist suggested separation for a month and that didn’t work. She doesn’t have any interest in touching me or getting touched.

I am the bread earner, she works part time or when her family commitments permit. I don’t want to leave this marriage and lose half or everything I’ve worked hard to build.

I feel like a caged animal and now I’m looking for an escape. Looking for someone who is in a similar situation and also looking for a an exit.

I hope to find that person, and soon.