I rarely vent to complete strangers, let alone strangers on the internet. Yet I have to get this out if for anything than the maintain my sanity.

We (49 HLM & 46 LLF) have been married for 22 years. We've celebrated the highs, and suffered the lows. Our sex life until early 2021 was actually fantastic. Passion, attraction, kinky... we were a perfect sexual match! Then she abruptly changed around January 2021. There wasn't anything I can attribute this to (believe me, I've analyzed, studied, pondered and outright asked her). She's not physically changed, I've not physically changed either... I could see if there was a lack of attraction. Now, we don't have sex. Pretty much ever. I feel like my passion and desire has been completely sapped by her lack of intimacy. And when we have sex (on the scale of once every 18 months), she makes me feel like it's an inconvenience. We've gone to counseling, tried medications, romantic escapes as a couple, ... everything. I even offered an open relationship so if I'm not meeting her needs, she can seek them elsewhere. And nothing has worked. She's still completely withdrawn from our marriage and refuses intimacy. I'm so at my wits end, I'm willing to step out of the marriage to have my needs met, and I'm not sorry for feeling this way.

I don't understand how someone can go from 3-4 times a week to twice in 3 years. I feel like I'm being held hostage.

I feel worthless, unwanted and undesired. I know I'm a great catch and loving husband, but enough is enough.