It's a long read but I've been living the lifestyle for over a decade at this point, so let me tell you a bit about myself to give you a well-rounded impression:

When you first see me you'll immediately notice I'm not overly tall, with only 174cm, have a distinct dad bod (means a visibly protruding belly), crowned by a shiny, bald head, with a rather stern forehead. On the bottom my face is rimmed by a short, growing beard (it's an experiment, don't judge it yet!). My eyebrows make me look rather serious but my eyes are soft and intense. You will likely see me smile wryly when first making eye contact.

When talking to me you'll quickly figure out that I'm a relatively well-spoken, reasonably educated, socially kind and caring person, who radiates warmth and enjoys giving care to anyone open to receive it. I have a rather childish and playful sense of humor (with a very dark streak to round it off), am very silly, cuddly, like to caress, speak softly and give comfort.

My mind can be fairly domineering and attentive, as such can be my words and body language - to a point I exhibit authority with ease. Contrasted with the playful, soft actions this combination is an acquired taste for some. The upside is that all of this combined makes me an amazing listener and conversational partner for anything from laughing tears about stupid things during good times, intense discussions with minds racing as fast as they can, all the way to deepest emotional exchanges and connections.

I'm a very open and direct person and firmly believe in talking about anything and sharing everything with those who care. There is no taboo question that would make me hesitate (unless there are other people around who might be offended, as I like being polite). In return I'd not be afraid of politely pressing a controversial issue, were it important to me.

Part of this is because I had a rough past and I've been exposed to trauma and suffering a lot. With increasing age it was people around me, who were struggling and hurting. Most of my relationships and friendships were with individuals who were having mental health problems. For this reason I have vast knowledge and experience in dealing with that. If you suffer from depression, anxiety disorders, ADHD, BPD, (C-)PTSD, compulsive sexual behavior disorder (CSBD, hypersexuality) or attachment issues you might want to reach out - even if it's just to be friends. I think you could get something positive out of us just talking.

In case you aren't doing well mentally, let me state something important that is not always obvious: I have a therapist I talk to and, should you struggle, I expect you see one, too. People with issues bouncing off one another is not good unless they work on themselves to get towards a better life.

Because of my past I could also use a lot of cuddly affection in certain moments. You should definitely enjoy hopping on my lap to snuggle up and hug me.

Let's get to more spicy things. I am a bit of an odd case, as I come with two sides that are somewhat polar opposites: I am very kind and caring on a social level and like to playfully spoil my Littles - but sexually I'm a dominant sadist. With that come darker kinks, such as degradation, CNC, forced orgasms, orgasm control and various thematic kinks that can play well into it. I do love playing around the idea of corruption or disciplining bad girls to become good girls. On the more tame kink side I do greatly enjoy dirty talk (and am pretty good at it), anal (which is a huge obsession of mine) and inflicting a bit of pain. The range and variety of kinky activities is vast and complicated, it's beyond scope of this post. Like everyone I have things I have not tried and am therefore not competent at, so there's room for experimentation and improvement, too.

What has to be said about sexuality is that you need to be mostly compatible here. It's okay to have not tried something or being unsure but if the thought of something I mentioned seems awful already it'll not go well. I don't want to avoid things I enjoy and you don't want to feel me holding back either.

Aftercare is very important to me. One can do the most nasty deeds and risk stirring traumatic things inside but then has to make them right in the end - even if it takes days or weeks. For this reason we'd also talk a lot about what goes on inside of you - to make sure you are actually doing well and don't just go along blindly.

As far as my life goes, I will likely have a vastly more flexible schedule than you. That means you would never have to be alone (unless you want to) and I'm always a call or message away when not physically present. I can be open towards my environemnt when it comes to the lifestyle but of course that might be different for you.

My life itself is very simple and almost ascetic. Whenever I buy anything for my home I reuse it until it can't be repaired anymore. The few items I have I keep for a long time. I show certain restraint when it comes to consumerism in general. That doesn't mean I don't greatly enjoy buying you things that make you happy every now and then but I'll be more thoughtful and lasting purchases, not vain ones. If you are a spendy girl and enjoy getting expensive, shiny new things all the time, we might not see eye to eye here.

Let's talk a bit about you though:

You should speak German on English, so we can talk without having to draw weird symbols or point at objects all the time. You should be roughly between 18 and 28 years and enjoy the idea of the age gap. That's not a power-dynamic related preference on my part but has to do with compatibility of phases in life. I do not care about your educational background but I'm a smartass and talk a lot, so you need to be able to enjoy listening to an older man who rambles on about anything imagineable.

Ideally you are kind deep down inside - be it Little or grownup you. If you ever, without good reason, act arrogant, rude or display awful manners around strangers you'll get in trouble. Maybe you want that or would like to have someone raise you into behaving better - just be careful what you wish for. Were you to display cruelty or abusive behavior towards others I'd react harshly, even in public. I do enjoy playful brats but extremely bratty Littles have to be careful: Punishments will continue until brattiness subsides. My imagination for escalating punishment has a long runway.

You obviously won't be in littlespace all day (as grownup you has to go out and about) but preferably you enjoy DDLG as a 24/7 lifestyle and not just an occasional interaction in your free-time. With that should come a slight openness to walk around outside, be it to buy icecream, to browse for new stuffies or even doing dirty things. I like to show my girl around. This takes trust, which takes time, so it gets worked out in the long run.

Since it might be important, I have to point out: There are several things I can not offer you - and one of those is having children and starting a family. I have several very good reasons for that and it's sadly non-negotiable. It would only you, me, all the friends and acquaintances we make along the way - and that has to be enough.

I'm also not looking to be your sugar daddy. I want you to turn into a self-sufficient girl who is able to go out in the world and do anything she wants, supported by a loving and caring partnership.

No matter if you are new to the lifestyle or have been in it for a while, we will carefully talk about things for quite some time. I take a lot of time to get to know a person, their character, views, kinks, flaws, fears, trauma, boundaries and anything else you'd be willing to share, before ever doing anything. That also means, were you an impatient one, or just wanted anything quick, I'd not be the one to go after.

This hopefully gave you some idea of myself and what to expect. I am very easy to talk to, so just send me a message! I will give you a guaranteed answer, no matter how old this post will be. I'd delete it, were it no longer necessary. In case you don't get a reaction within a few days, send me a message with the old Reddit messaging system (as the chat can be buggy sometimes). Even if you have random questions about anything, I'm always happy to talk!