I have found myself in a ddlg dynamic with someone I've been talking to for close to 4 months. Long distance but we've spent a decent amount of time together. I'm flying to see him this week. Our roles have developed very naturally and was not something we discussed or even knew was on the table initially.. Which actually feels really amazing for me because it's something I truly want from my core and found myself begging for. Not that I need to beg he's very much a daddy and very into it.. But I've only experimented with this dynamic once years ago with someone I hardly knew and who I just simply wasn't compatible with. I also didn't understand what it was about until now so my perception was warped and it was not a fun experience for me.. Anyway. This is all new still.. The relationship is new.. The dynamic is new.. Im reading a lot and noticing that I've been navigating intuitively pretty well as far as setting clear boundaries and communicating.. My concern is that sometimes it seems like it's coming off as lack of trust, or disobedience.. And I don't know how to reconcile that when it's so early and I feel like we need to get clear on things and make sure there's awareness and consent. I also feel like I thrive on reassurance right now.. Gentleness.. I mean, I'm obedient and I accept pumishement happily.. But when I ask for reassurance.. like for example today he very kindly asked if I was open to discussing a threesome fantasy today.. But keep in mind I JUST mentioned this morning that I was feeling insecure about the thought of him sleeping with someone else, since that door is still open for him currently... I said "I'd need to be your favorite 🫣".. And he could not say that in the moment.. he danced all around it.. so my feelings got hurt and I shut it down.. after some discussion he felt like I was trying to take control.. In my mind I was trying to create a sense of safety for myself so I could surrender to the idea.. By the end of the conversation he gave me tons of reassurance and said "i want you to feel nurtured and whole and safe and thriving" so I feel settled and I feel like we worked through it.. Any advice on how to handle this sort of thing moving forward? I'm sorry this is a bit of a ramble I haven't been able to talk about this with anyone so there's a lot on my mind I want to get out. Thanks for listening ❤️