I have an anxious attachment style. I'm working on it. But one thing I really struggle with when dating is working out whether certain feelings are related to my attachment style or the person in question.

For example, I met a guy recently that I'm really excited about but how do I know if I'm excited because I like him... or if it's actually a red flag and the excitement I feel is in fact just my attachment style being triggered?

Similarly, I recently broke things off with a man who was very nice but I didn't feel held my interest enough. Was I bored because he was secure? Or was I bored because our personalities and conversation styles didn't quite match up? How do I learn to tell the difference?