Do you guys have a formula or series of questions that you ask on a first date? I was chatting to a friend who is also single about going speed dating recently and he said he was worried that he wouldn't have enough time to get all the info he normally gleans on a first date. Now obviously speed dating isn't a real first date anyway, just an introduction. But I was wondering if I should be more intentional with my conversations on first dates in future.

I do bring up my nephew as a way to spark the conversation on kids without out and out asking if they want children. And I ask if they like travel, dogs etc. But usually for me a first date is just to see if we're attracted to each other and we could have fun together. The problem is that for me attraction is often a slow burn and I love meeting new people so I almost always have fun on a first date! I find it really hard to tell if I enjoyed the person or just having a chat and a drink.

So, yeah. Do you guys have specific questions or conversations that you want to have on a first date to help you understand the person and your compatibility. If so what are they?