Okay so, some of you may remember me. Yes, I dated the guy who lied about his career/job/degree. He was unkind about my body and his parents would constantly say really hurtful things about me. He cheated twice by going on the apps. One day he asks my dad for his blessing to engaged, then 2 days later he flip flopped because his parents went berserk and we broke up last week today.

Thing is, I ignored all the red flags because 1) sunk cost fallacy 2) I was settling 3) I just didn’t want to be single and do the whole dating process again and 4) it was nice to have company and spend time together doing our hobbies.

I think since January I had a gut feeling this was never going to work. Too many bad things in the relationship were there. His parents are controlling and had no real reason to dislike me, I was also kind and respectful.

So I went back on the apps on Friday. I had a great date Monday. I have another date with the same guy tomorrow. I did feel sad at first. I cried here and there. But there was no shock factor. It is all making so much sense. Just wish I had stayed broken up 2 years ago when I had a gut feeling he’s going to give me stress/headaches. I’m no longer feeling down or depressed and this new guy is refreshingly nice and has a job and has a life. The date went smooth and we had a lot of fun (sushi dinner date and an arcade). He’s also cute. Not my typical type but he’s handsome and I feel attraction.

Fellow DOTers, am I moving on too fast or based on my relationship it’s okay to just roll with it and continue dating and take breaks if I need to? I learned so much after these 2 years with my ex. So much I could write a novel titled “All the things to look out for and NOT to do”. I didn’t take advice back then because I was afraid to be alone. If things don’t pan out with this new guy that’s ok! It’s super new. It’s the fun phase getting to know each other and feel each other out.

I’m happy to be single. I’m actually okay to be back dating. But… is it too soon? I’m meeting my therapist Tuesday (sooner than usual) to discuss the aftermath of the break up but it really hasn’t been as bad as I thought it would be.

I welcome all advice/suggestions. I trust this sub’s judgment as it’s been spot on in my previous relationship.