On the first few dates, would you rather the intense feeling of "woah, I really like this person!"(endorphin rush) or would you rather someone who is a more practical choice, as in they've expressed wanting a relationship that aligns with what you're seeking, coupled with you two getting a long very well? Is it one or the other or are you not going to settle until you find both? I'm curious to hear the perspective of others who are 30 .

Backstory to why I have this question in mind:

A mate and I were chatting about our dating lives the other day. He said he went on three dates with a very kind, mature, thoughtful woman who was transparent about how she felt towards him. I congratulated him, then he went on to say "But I ended things via text after the 3rd date because she did not give me a rush, ya know, that sort of high you get when you meet someone you're very smitten of".

At the time, I did not have much to say, but upon further reflection, I thought of the last two people I got that cloud 9 feeling from, the kind where my heart fluttered in anticipation to see them and how excited I was whenever I saw a text from them pop up. That nice feeling does not equate to a good relationship to-be, and practicality sounds a lot more appealing. I discovered over the course of three to four dates that those two people have complex issues that they are not willing to resolve. Ex: One lies a good bit/is very good at it and plays down their drug habit. The other has issues expressing feelings and told me he leaves relationships really quickly if it "stops being fun" instead of taking the patient approach of attempting to problem solve, with his longest relationship being a year. The initial rush of endorphins feels nice, biologically, but such feelings are baseless because I don't even know the person. What sounds a lot more appealing would be someone who's looking for something that aligns with what I want and that our interactions are smooth, clear, honest, and all cards are on the table. As boring as that may seem to some, it sounds more stable.