Almost exactly a year ago, my marriage ended. We just weren’t making each other happy any more. I very quickly started seeing someone from Bumble - she was also going through a divorce and we hit it off. She has 3 kids, so I never envisioned it being anything serious.

Moving out of my old house about 11 months ago, I slipped a disc in my back. It was hard - I struggled to even walk for about 6 months, and I still have pain and anxiety about it. The girl I was seeing was great - really supportive and I think that ended up making me feel a lot closer to her.

Things carried on - we agreed to be exclusive, and then suddenly it had been 6 months, then 9 months of seeing each other.

I accepted a new job - which meant that I left I job I’d had for 10 years. The stress of that caused my back to flare up and I’ve found the last month or so quite hard.

In the background, the girl I’ve been seeing had her final divorce hearing - and everything started moving for her. She’s found all this very stressful too.

She came over today and I thought we were going to just chill and watch a movie.

Instead we broke up.

She can’t handle the emotional stress of her divorce and of being in a new relationship.

I get it, I really do, but it feels like such shit timing for me. I feel like so much has changed for me, and this is one more change that’s going to stress me out and impact my life.

And I’m sad, because although I didn’t want to take on 3 more kids in addition to my daughter (who I have 50:50) - she was great. I don’t have a huge number of friends locally, so I saw her most free weekends, and we texted daily etc.

I’m going to miss her a lot.

Has anyone been through similar? Lots of change in a relatively short period? Any advice for moving on from this?