I’ve (46f) been dating a guy (47m) for a little over six months and we see each other like once a week or once every other week. This is because he has three kids and a demanding job and I have two kids, a demanding job, and I’m in grad school.

In between our dates, he doesn’t text me very much until three days or so before our scheduled date. It’s a noticeable pattern. Outside of that, I only hear from him once a day. He’s never been a big texter. He focuses on people in-person much better than through texting.

Most recently, the quality of our dates has been going down hill. We go out for dinner and drinks and sex is on the table every time. Now, there are times where he comes over to my house and it’s just sex.

I have proposed that we go see a concert, theatre show, or movie, but we have never done that. He doesn’t take me up on it.

In the past, I have told him (a few times) that I really want more communication and to go on real dates. Very little effort is made in response to fulfilling these requests and then we just go back to the way things have always been.

This past weekend, I have seriously considered ending things because I am fed up with being ignored (how I feel) at times. I haven’t brought up my feelings about this because he’s been genuinely sick for a couple of weeks. I think he has the flu and his work stress has made it so he hasn’t fully recovered. He gets sick whenever he’s really stressed out.

I have also tried to break up with him a few times and he reels me back in.

Our sexual chemistry is off the charts!

Based on this, I am wondering if he will ever change or if I should simply accept things as they are. I am just not sure that I will ever be fully satisfied in this relationship.