Hi

I'm 49F, dating 53M. He's great. However, our physical connection is lacking.

Yes, I've raised it, asked what he liked, explained what I liked. He didn't take that well and wouldn't discuss.

He has a history of high blood pressure and is clinically infertile (I imagine this would have been a lot to deal with, when younger).

He's very tentative with sex, we went away for about 4 nights, we only had sex twice. I am more experienced than him. That's ok. Quality over quantity, however, he doesn't aim to please me.

MY QUESTION for the men, I have researched meds like viagra/or similar and want to raise this with him. He will need to speak to a doctor obviously.

Is there anyone out there with a similar experience ? Did medication help?