I’m getting kind of tired of everyone being so judgmental about people not disclosing a disability or dealbreaker in their online dating profile. Guess what, we’re in our forties or older and single, we probably have some sort of unappealing baggage. There needs to be some grace allowed. I’ve seen people up in arms, threatening to walk out on a date, and just being rude to someone for not disclosing something that you may find to be a dealbreaker. Everything from HSV to lots of kids to a physical ailment, medical issue, etc..

Yes, I know you don’t want to waste your time but what’s the worse that can happen, you have a coffee date with someone and it doesn’t work out because of a “dealbreaker.” If you’re investing a lot of time before meeting and then feel duped then that’s on you. Either you should meet quicker or have your list of dealbreaker questions asked. Is it possible that you would overlook one of these dealbreakers if they were a perfect match in every other area? I just don’t know what everyone expects these people to do. If they immediately disclose on their profile no one will be interested so are they destined for a life of solitude? You can’t cut someone a little slack and just chalk it up to not a match like all your other dates? Sure, it’s disappointing but maybe meet a new friend and move on. No one owes you their personal information before or even on a first date.