Personally, I'd be eagerly excited and end up comparing tools of the trade, lol, but for the majority of people, you've got a couple of concerns:

1. If you're in this world, you know that CONSENT is the rule of law, but many people don't stop and think that it isn't just applied to actual sex or even kinks.

Consent means letting the person you will be seeing know well in advance. It should not happen on a day where there are plans to go hang out at your place, and always somewhere open/public/comfortable where they can easily choose to walk away then and there, based on their own feelings.

1. Be up front/honest with your potential partners from the very first connection, dating profile, etc.

   This is not something that would be appropriate to dance around or spring on someone after the fact. You also should not be waiting until you get into sexual preference discussions to disclose. That's not fair to the other person.

It's a substantial part of your identity, the same way having kids, being divorced, etc. are all things that should be shared at the very beginning.

1. Now for the hard stuff, are you someone who built a dungeon because you think it's cool, it's something that really gets you going, but you don't actually have the education and training to be working within that realm? Ie you did not specify your role (dom/sub/switch) or what role you expect these partners to play. BDSM is not something you decide you're into. Go out and buy the parts, build a dungeon, and start in on it.

You need to be educated and oftentimes mentored in this realm. Proper care of your play partner, after-care, can you tell when theyve had enough even if they dont say it, how to use impact toys, do you know not to use any form of rope play or binding if you haven't studied and more importantly practiced in a safe and monitored environment substantially etc. (Obviously, there's more, but you get the point).

Unfortunately, the reason so many people are dead set against BDSM play, is because they were curious at one point and had an absolutely horrific experience with someone who didn't know what they were doing and had no right playing that way.

Why did you make the exact same post in the dating over 50 sub 8 months ago? Are you hoping to get different answers?