This is a bit rambling, but here it goes...I am amicably divorced (M60). Making much better co-parents than husband & wife. To date, I have come across my ex wife's profile, 2 of her friends and a former work colleague on Tinder & Bumble. Its inevitable. I've swiped left in all cases.

Except one friend of my ex's, who I like and respect and hired her for some design work when I started my business in the past. She's divorced also. She had a different profile on Bumble and like my ex's other friends I swiped left out of respect for the proximity of my ex. Her profile recently popped up on my Tinder feed. Her latest profile iteration is different. She's included terms that resonate strongly with me: kink friendly and "GGG". These terms represented a source of many arguments between me and my ex-wife. I was increasingly more sexually open than her.

As OLD goes, I would not be surprised she's come across my profile too. My Tinder profile is rather conventional by comparison as I have not chosen to include similar language in my profile. Because of this revelation I will be revising my Tinder profile and be more up front in the same manner. My question- should I reach out to her- either on Tinder of directly(we follow each other on Instagram and we have each other's email addresses)? Or is this too close to home?