So I’ve been separated for five years. Haven’t had any form of physical intimacy in that time (and longer). Two months ago I went on a dating app. Went on several dates, kinda clicked with one guy. I’ve seen him several times and we fooled around like teenagers a little but nothing more yet.

I decided to not renew the dating app after the first month and just before it expired I got a message from, and went on a date with, another guy. This guy is very nice and we’ve just done some heavy making out.

My question is….would it be wrong to have sex with both of these guys if we haven’t talked about having an exclusive relationship? It’s been so long since I’ve done this I have no idea what’s considered acceptable. I know it’s my own decision but just curious on thoughts.

I am in my late 50’s and they are both in their early 60’s. I like both of them but don’t know either one enough yet to say I prefer one over the other. I’d like to continue seeing both of them and see where things go, but is that wrong?