Hi all. I got into a relationship with a girl. Without expecting we very quickly ‘fell in love’ with other. With time I found out some hard truths. That she had kids, lied about about it. Though I accepted the reasons she gave, as she tried to qualify of in a very hard career and thought the father would be the best at looking after them. Over the years. Even though things were great, I came across something that Hurt. She denies seeing the kids and over the weekends when she said she went to spend time with her father. She was actually seeing the kids and staying with the ‘ex’. Then I read some texts on her phone (don’t ask) where the ex is trying to spend time with her, take her away. She’s alway told me the ex used to hit her, but being nice was the only way she could see the kids. Was she sleeping with him? She denies it. I know she lied about load of things. But I try to put it aside because I genuinely care, and feel that she’s good person. I’ve been helping her out financially for ages. And when I asked her to help me. A fraction of what I spent- she didn’t despite promising it me. I don’t care about the money. But we did have a horrible argument where I did say some shitty things. Even n said I don’t want her to contact me again. We’ve argued a lot. Because of past lying, so didn’t think much of it. After summer we didn’t talk for weeks. I apologised for saying that. Explained why I did. (Not that it was acceptable in away). She told me she does want to continue trying but I’ve seen her twice. She then a changed job. And I know she’s really busy. But I don’t hear from her. She ignores my texts. When I then lose it, she always criticises me for making things about me not caring about how hard things are etc. she rarely talks to me but text. Never see her to talk face 2 face. And if I do get the odd chance to talk over the phone. She has a go at me for not understanding the stress she going through. Before she would would call/ text me For anything. Now I feel like I’m a burden. I can’t do anything right. I say I love her and am trying to fight for us. But nothing. What should I do. I’ve even started to keep a list of things I want to talk to her about. Normally we would daily. Now. Cus I never see her or talk to her. I forget. So list to remind me, if we ever did. Sound pathetic to me. But do u guys think she moved on. I genuinely don’t know what and how I should be behaving. Everything I say or do is making it about myself and not accepting she’s too busy to send a 5 second message. Would be grateful for your thoughts Xx thanks u.