Please forgive me if this post gives off misogynistic douchebag vibes, but I truthfully am confused as to why I keep only attracting dates whom have so much past baggage and emotional trauma.

For context I’m an early thirties straight male living in the PNW states. My luck while dating has been less than stellar and to date, I have no idea what it’s like nor have I ever been in a stable healthy relationship before.

All the women I seem to attract have some crazy amounts of emotional baggage where I’m the first ‘nice guy’ they’ve met and so they latch on like a mouse to a mouse trap and just overwhelm me. For example, this last woman I had two in-person dates with and couple FaceTime calls, she was already telling me I’m the first guy who’s ever treated her to real romantic ‘dates’ instead of just hookups before and was already having moving in with her talks… 😅

I’m not going to air out all her information that she confided in me, but that always seems to be the the ongoing theme…every…single…time. I’m not even speaking in hyperbole, almost every woman I’ve gone out with treats me as a stepping stone because they’ve been treated like crap in past relationships.

Looking into myself for a moment, I have no idea what kind of bad energy I could be giving off to where I cannot for the life of me attract a normal woman who wants to take the time to get to know each other and build towards a healthy relationship.

I’m realistic and definitely understand that no one is perfect and most people around my age at this point have baggage. What’s baffling is that I’m someone who actually has their crap together: lots of friends, social hobbies, good career, live alone, workout consistently and I’m fit, I travel, no kids or crazy secrets. I even can have those difficult intellectual conversations without issue.

idk what else to do.

EDIT: My standards aren’t high at all. I’m just looking for a normal gal who wants to go on fun dates and laugh together and build something. I’m not looking to be someone’s therapists where they just vent about how shitty their exes were to them 😫