Hey guys,

So I have a big crush on this coworker at my job. I’ve been wanting to ask her out for over a month now, and I see her like 4 times a week, but every time I want to go up to her desk where she sits, I just stop myself from doing it. I think she might like me back because she always looks at me when I enter a room and when we talk she smiles a lot and talks in a higher tone than usual. Also when she comes over to talk to my coworker who I’m usually sitting next to, she’s always making eye contact with me specifically, even when she’s talking to him directly or he’s talking to her. I just get so shy to actually say “hey, do you want to get lunch together on Saturday?” When I’m at home thinking about it I get super confident but then when I’m actually at work and see her I just shut myself down from going to talk to her. It’s gotten to the point where I don’t even really interact with her much anymore because just thinking about her gets me upset with myself that I can’t muster up the courage to ask her out. I found her on instagram and requested to follow her, but she hasn’t accepted. All of this especially upsets me because I’ve grown so much with confidence and self worth in the past few years, and thought I’ve grown out of being shy to talk to girls I like, and then this happens. It feels like I’m reverting back to old ways and I hate that about myself.

I need help, I have no clue what to do or how to get the courage. Should I just write her a note since I’m too shy to ask her out? Or should I just force myself to ask her face to face? I really want to ask her out soon too because fall is the perfect season for dates because there’s so much to do. Thanks for your time reading all of this, I appreciate your time :)