So basically I have been talking to this girl for three months within those three months We have gone into the talking phase 2 times. The first time she told me she didn’t see me as a partner, that she didn’t like me like that, So we stopped talking and we continued as friends. They were on we continue talking she kept on showing me interest and when she came back from a concert out of town she told me she wanted to talk again because she couldn’t stop thinking about me the whole time she was at her concert and then a week later she said she was having doubts and we stopped talking as romantic interests again.

About five days later we had a conversation about that whole interaction of not wanting to talk anymore hour and at the time she said she was trying to hard to like me and that she couldn’t see me as a partner again but when we talked about it later on she said that she wasn’t ready for a relationship and she thought she was just trying to hard to be ready for a relationship. Then she said that she was gonna take steps to not block me off but like to make sure that this situation never happened again because it wasn’t fair to me or her and I was cool with that.

My thing is that besides her saying that she still shows me interest that same day when we were having that conversation about the not talking again I told her that I sought counsel from my sister and that she told me to stop talking to her and she seemed noticeably like Worried and told me I should’ve just lied about it to her and I was like well why do you care we’re not together. Later on we hung out again and my mom called and I told her to be quiet while I talk with my mom and she was like upset that she couldnt introduce herself to her and I ,in the back of my mind, was like why would you want to introduce yourself?

Yesterday we hung out again and she started acting funny because she was writing her name on my car with her finger and She was talking about things that we could do together later on and teasing. She even brought up a topic about some dude trying to hit on her and how dumb it was because he was trying so hard to make things happen when they weren’t there and they brought up how this past check was hitting me up in like how dumb she was for doing so and we both kind of laughed it off. I kept on putting my hand on her lap and she didn’t seem to mind and next time we hang out I think I might make a move to kiss her and see how that will play out just so I can see what kind of boundaries we have now.

I’m gonna be honest I’m at a loss right now because I don’t know where the fuck we are at right now because we clearly like each others presence. We vibe really well. During the second time we stopped talking I told her why would she rush it that it would just make things more complicated and less stable for us we should’ve just let things flow that they were coming and they were coming pretty well for us that there was no reason for us to rush to things if she wasn’t ready I could’ve excepted that and we could’ve continued as friends may be friends with benefits or something and we could’ve eventually gone to the good part later on and I don’t know if she’s doing that now or if she’s still liking me despite her words.

Edit: I forgot to mention that she’s also showed me her DM’s on all of her apps to basically confirm to me that I’m the only guy she’s talking to. Idk if that matters