posting on an alt account. I'm looking for preferably a woman's perspective on this.

a little background: I'm male, 32. my female coworker is 36. we work in different departments, but we hang out with a vape group at work so we chat a lot. she's the only coworker I see outside of work though. I helped her move some furniture with some friends, she's come to my place a few times to smoke weed, drink and watch movies. we get along really well, but we never talk about anything intimate or romantic, just talk like friends and coworkers. sometimes it gets a bit flirty.

I'm divorced for 2 years now, I have a 4 year old son, sole custody. she just got out of a relationship over 6 months ago. I'm not looking for a relationship, and she's not either. now I personally don't date in the workplace, as the cons outweigh the pros, but I feel she may be open to some adult fun. having known her for over a year now, she expects a man to take initiative and make a move. however, I'm not sure how to respectfully bring up the topic without it coming off as harrasment or without making things weird if she rejects me. I personally wouldn't be offended if she declined, but what would she think of me after?

we've been totally honest about our recent relationships, she wants to meet my son. she does the physical contact on my arm when she laughs at my jokes, our eyes do the lingering thing when they connect, the slight smiles, the awkward moments of silence when a romantic move should be made but no one acts. so I'm pretty sure she would go for it, knowing neither of us want a relationship but could probably use some physical intimacy.

women, if you were in her shoes, how would you like this subject to be brought up?