So here is the story, me (Chinese )and my German bf have been dating for three months now. He introduced me to his family already, also his friends. I have spoken to his friends and had meals together already.

He lives in China right now while his family members are in Germany but he keeps a frequent contacts with all his family members.

On my side. I am Chinese living in China. I never shared my parents with any of my relationships. When I told my bf the first time that I would be calling my mom, then he would say stuff like: sending my greeting to her.

At first. I thought he was joking so I told him, mom had to ask where I went for the weekend. I had to lie that I visited a friend (the friend my mom met before), my bf didn’t like it but I didn’t know. I just took it as he understood why I had to lie.

Tonight. When I said I am calling my mom tomorrow, he also said: send her my greetings. Then you have much to explain. As usual, I took it as a joke, then I said:I can’t, I never share with them about my relationships, I can’t explain to them, still don’t know how.

Anyway, then I asked directly if he wants my parents to know about us. And this is what he said:

You decide. I just don’t like lies. I hope you understand. Nobody deserves it. But I absolutely understand that this is difficult in the Chinese culture… that’s why I am 100% behind you, if and when to tell.

So I am confused about what he means, if he wants me to tell my parents about him or? He lets me decide if and when I do? I don’t know anymore. Cause in my culture, it’s serious to tell parents about who you are dating. Not to mention that my family is quite traditional who want me to marry someone from where I am from. Not to mention my bf is a foreigner.

I have my plan about telling my parents about my relationship, the one leads to marriage, I will only tell them when I have my babe. Then they have to accept the fact who I marry to.

Anyway. Plz leave comments on how do you think about what he means. Thank you very much~