Hey guys i hope u can help me I(amab 29) am in a polyamorous relationship which is amazing and all but not my problem. I tried to date people via datingapps which just destroyed the little bit of confidence i gained in the last few years. I stopped using them a few months ago. My problem is, as the title suggests, i still would like to date someone or meet someone and have sex with someone else, this does not go away and i am starting to obsess over this problem. I cant meet anyone, probably because im too ugly or something and still wanting it just reminds me of the fact nobody else wants me. I tried so hard avoiding the thought, suppressing it and otherwise just distracting me but it does not go away, i also started to try to focus on potential negatives which just ters more into me i feel. I also tend to find many people attractive which reminds me aswell. So i either can get rid of my wishes or i somehow manage to stop finding people attractive. I really dont know what else to do and there is for real no other option.

Does anyone know how ?