I (29M) have been talking to this amazing girl (23F). She lives about 3 hours away so we haven't met in person yet, but over the past week since we met we have been talking on the phone and playing video games together and it has been wonderful.

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The topic of sex came up at some point. At first it was just sharing how sexual we are in relationships, then what are some of our favorite things to do, then it turned into her showing off some of her favorite nudes and I showed her a few of mine. It was a fun conversation and in the moment everything seemed fine.

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The next morning I could tell things were a bit off. She was distant and not messaging me like before. I kind of realized that it was too much too fast and the wholesomeness of our interactions was fucked up by what we shared the night before. I brought it up and expressed my concern and she received it well and agreed that it was too soon, but said she wants to look past it and make things work. I believe her, but I also know how impactful a bad vibe is, especially for a ldr. I really like this girl. She is everything I have been looking for. I can feel our interactions drifting and it's triggering my anxiety, making it even harder to be carefree and fun in the short times we do talk. I've realized that I need to back up and give her space, but I am so scared she will fade away.

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Have any of you made the same mistake? If so, what did you do to fix it?

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Edit: The sharing of the nudes was *consensual* she sent them first. I would not send sexual content to someone who did not want it. Not everyone who sends a nude is a disgusting piece of shit.

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Update: I have played it cool and didn't bring it up again. I also have made sure to not focus on sexual stuff, and things are going fine. Still working on finding a good time to meet, but she is showing interest and things are going well again. Thanks for the advice :j