This is a backup account as I don't feel comfortable using my real one.

I'm a 25F who has had many flings but few relationships and none of them healthy. I have been in therapy for years and have healed from a lot and have noticed and changed a lot of my toxic traits to where I can now access when I feel a negative emotion and communicate why I feel that way and how to go about it in a healthier manner.

I have also been pretty single for quite a bit, I was in a fling for a few years that lead me to focus on healing cause of it as it left me feeling extremely insecure. I'm also on the bigger side but am pretty active, so size wise I'm not most people's cup of tea, but I'm a great person.

I want to know, how does one seek out someone for a relationship, let alone a healthy one at that??

I'm tired of not being someone's first choice or even their second. I want to build a future with someone in a safe environment where we can both be ourselves. I just don't know how.