I’m separated and have been for 8 years. My divorce will be finalized in a couple months.

I’m 37F and attractive, I’ve been looking for a relationship these past 8 years and have found literally nothing. Any man I interact with only wants sex and that’s it.

I’ve tried online dating and it’s been pretty rough. Disgusting comments and messages, again only wanting sex, not maintaining a conversation, so many ghosts. I’m done with the apps. They are a waste of time.

I’ve even posted on Reddit and they ghost too.

My friend insists that if I look for a fwb it’ll turn into a relationship. I’ve even tried his advice, and posted I’m seeking a fwb. Those never even make it to the meet stage.

I don’t want a fwb though, I want a relationship.

I take care of my appearance and make sure I look nice when out in public and never get approached.

I have no clue what to do. I’m doing everything that they say to do and I’ve had no luck in 8 years. I’ve taken several breaks to focus on other things and just live my life.

So what can I do? I work remotely now so I don’t commute to work. I only go to a couple places (kid’s gymnastics, grocery store, pharmacy). With the pandemic I’m very leery of being in public too much also.

I’m not seeking a 6’4” 10/10 with a heavy wallet either. Seriously, I’m not.

Men, where are you guys that want a relationship? Why am I having such trouble?

Also, I’ve been honest in profiles and posts that I’m separated and there’s no chance of reconciliation.