Okay so buckle up. This is probably a follow up to my previous post where I was warned not to give this guy a chance. Please don't berate me, as much as today was terrible - I don't regret going as I would've wondered "what if" and wouldn't have the knowledge to avoid certain things next time.

Onto the date: we met up, we were both running late but he kept me waiting for 40 mins. Even though he lived closer than I did and the trains in my area were closed for the weekend (stupid London tube). When we met up, he was already quite handsy and went to go hold hands which I was okay with. He also mentioned how he wanted to go back to his place but I said no. We went to grab drinks and by this point, he amped up the touching by groping my waist, skimming over my butt, squeezing my sides and I felt a little uncomfortable because I only just met the guy and felt that we didn't have enough rapport to be touching each other. Plus I'm quite reserved when I first meet someone so it was a bit much for me. Following on from that, we were having a normal time just chatting but then when we got our drinks, he got a smaller size than he asked for and got really annoyed at the server. It's one thing to get annoyed but to show it by being rude to the server, having a little strop was just unacceptable and downright disgusting. I make it a habit to ensure that workers have a nice time when helping me so this really threw me off.

Moving on, we went to an area to sit and again, too touchy and was practically attempting to grope me again. I felt uncomfortable but idk what happened and why I was not able to convey my discomfort. He said he had a surprise and pulled out a bouquet of flowers which I'm sure he picked up from the local store (I thanked him anyway). So then I said let's go eat and he took me to a nice restaurant. That's when things took a turn for the worst and he had an issue with me dating in the past and had an issue with me clubbing as if that's his business. Kept asking who I was with whenever I spoke about going on a trip or visiting a place. Didn't like that I had male friends. Oh and has very warped, misogynistic views that women need to do everything they can to avoid men harassing them. When I mentioned that we all try our best and still get harassed and we fear rejecting them because we could get harmed or killed, he got annoyed and was condescending. I ended up getting annoyed too and just wanted to go home. That's when he switched up and tried to be nice again but I wasn't really bothered. Asked the waitress to pack up my food. A waiter came round with the bill and my date was standoffish again, barely acknowledged the waiter. I smiled and said thank you to the waiter and we left.

We got back to walking and sat down again (I didn't know how to make an excuse and leave) and he became way more handsy now. Brazenly trying to touch my butt, squeeze my hip and waist and then ventured to my breasts. Was also trying to get me to look at him but I didn't want to as he clearly wanted to kiss, when I didn't. He noticed I wasn't looking at him and was stiff and trying to move away and asked why. But I decided I had enough and wanted to go home. He got stroppy as he thought I'd go back to his place or stay out some more. Kept pushing me to answer when we'd next see each other to which I said a random day. Didn't walk me to the station as it was too long (was a 5 min walk) and we went our separate ways. I also threw the flowers away.

Long story short: after this terrible, terrible date - my friend suggested that I send a message to say that I'm not interested in seeing him again. I kind of want to ghost him as I feel that he will start an argument with me or be rude to me after spending money on dinner and drinks. What should I do or say?

TL:DR Went on a terrible date with a possessive, overly touchy weirdo who violated my personal space and was an all round terrible person to date. Should l ghost him or send a message?