So imagine a scenario where you meet someone online, you've been speaking for a few days and click immediately. Sending voice notes a lot and listening to each other speak for ages. Sure, you're both busy but you can wind down at the end of the day and message each other. No phone call yet. You can see the person is attractive and they also have an attractive voice (which is a major bonus for me personally).

However they can be a bit intense. Already alluding to wanting a relationship with you. Showing minor signs of jealousy that you've dated other men/people before. Wants you or their potential partner to also be jealous and clingy too. All red flags popping up but you're super attracted to this person and know that you can have a good time for the short term but it wouldn't work out in the long term. Also you're an avoidant so you don't know if that's just your avoidant self trying to find reasons to back away.

Also, they partake in something which is considered your top deal breaker (in this scenario its smoking, but also selling smoking stuff i.e. Vapes). They ask you out in a sweet way and tell you they have a date planned out. What do you do?

We are both in our 20s by the way.