First and foremost, I have mommy/daddy issues and emotional injuries that have come from being an emotional orphan from my parents. They altered my blueprint as a person that made me unsteady and one place that always showed was my relationships. I realized I was the common denominator in my relationships and that I was the problem and sought out therapy.

Mommy/daddy issues always get exposed in your relationships. Doesn't matter if you have the education, body, money or the career- it will always be exposed.

My point is, we have to acknowledge them and handle them. Will you ever be healed? Probably not, but you can be mindful of the triggers, communicate those triggers to your partner and most importantly your mindful of the behaviour you inherited from the issues of your parents that has negative effects towards the person you're in a relationship with.

There's really no other nice way to say this but it's not your partners problem and if we go deeper it's also not your kids problem either. Your dad was a cold, icy emotionally unavailable parent but that doesn't mean you can be that way to your partner or most importantly your child with the excuse of "that's all I know." We have to be accountable to breaking cycles.

Is it an easy journey? Absolutely not, but youre worth it. I don't even know you and know you're worth inner peace. You can gain control to fix your blueprint where youll be steady and strong both mentally and emotionally.

You have to Feel, so you can Deal in order to Heal, because hurt people, hurt people.