I'm 30 years old for context. I had a conversation with a coworker today. He was confused when I mentioned I had no luck dating. His actual words were, "Well you're intelligent, have lots of different interests, your tall and don't look bad. I would have though that you would have lots of opportunities". I had to try to explain that no one has really taken an interest in me ever, and then we conceded that there is something about the way I make first impressions that out some people off, something maybe to do with my speech patterns or accents, but many people warm up to me after a while and get along well with me.

It feels like I have a warning written in ink only visible to women on my forehead and I can't get anyone to pay me enough attention to break through the veneer of my first impression to get to the person beneath. I know the problem must be with me, the old adage of if you smell shit everywhere you go, check your shoes, but I don't understand what I can change and it's getting harder and harder to not get bitter. I don't want to become a guy that pesters someone 24/7 but I feel like that is quickly becoming the only way I will get any attention.