Hi friends,

I have been actively dating for the last 2 or 3 years now (most recently within a healthy polyamorous/open relationship) and I have been able to recognize some fairly clear patterns in my dating habits.

A major one, which I see as being both a blessing and a curse, is that I am a very emotionally open and intelligent potential partner AND I tend to be very eager. I feel like this is a kind of strange combination in that I know my actions when first talking to someone can be rather strong, and perhaps a bit off-putting, but I am coming from a place of respect and genuine interest. Meaning I am not persistently hounding the people I am interested in just for sex or to add to some meaningless body count. I am genuinely very, very interested in getting to these people and doing whatever I can to make them feel special.

I was just wondering if y’all had any advice on gauging other people’s receptivity to courting efforts or general advice for someone who feels very deeply and doesn’t want to scare off someone they are very interested in.