“Fantasy love is much better than reality love. Never doing it is very exciting. The most exciting attractions are between two opposites that never meet.” ― Andy Warhol

This quote is relatable and incredibly apt, as we see it daily on this thread. People are falling for the idea of the person that they've created in their minds, having only chatted and never met/met once/ghosted. Its so important to remember that we are essentially talking to strangers and we dont know anything about them. When it doesn't work out, its ok and its very rarely as a direct result of something you've done. If a stranger walks past you in the street and makes a face or looks down on you, do you care, most likely not, so why do we treat dating any differently? Somehow with dating, we ask what we could have done different and blame ourselves. It is also our imagination and idea of the perfect partner that we create that somehow allows us to ignore red flags in relationships. The real conundrum is how do we ensure that we dont create a false/unrealistic version of people in our minds and stop blaming ourselves when it doesnt work?