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So he (21M, let's call him Milo) made it clear to me(19F) that he was just looking to casually date. And I agreed with him since I wasn't looking for anything in particular and I'm very, very new to dating so I wasn't looking to get married or anything like that.
I think I came to realize that "casual dating" can mean wildly different things to different people. I thought it was just dating without the commitment or the exclusivity aka the "getting to know each other stage". But I'm under the impression that he treats it more of like a fwb relationship. Which, to clarify, I'm not that against. My only no-no is hook ups. I just want something regular.
We like the same music, go to the same school, and I love his stupid giggle. He's sensitive and cute and I enjoy the sex but I feel like he only really texts me to tell me when he's free to fuck or sext. And idk if I'm being paranoid but I'm the only one who asks about the other person's day. I keep myself busy so I don't seem too desperate or available because I feel like I generally give off that vibe. And my girlfriends tell me to not reply as quickly as I do but I'm just not the type of person that wants to play hard to get. I also read up that I shouldn't stop "talking" to other people when I think I've found a great match but I personally feel unbelievably guilty when I talk to multiple people at a time.
I'm trying to respect our boundaries of "casual dating" but it's kind of hard not to catch feelings when he looks so deeply into my eyes. I honestly don't know if I myself want more from the relationship or if I just got too emotionally attached to the first person that gave me some attention. And I feel like I'm too easy :/ I guess my question is whether or not I'm allowed to catch feelings in a "casual dating" type situation. None of my friends talk to boys and I only started to two months ago so idk who to ask. I feel really lost.
Thanks for reading this word vomit
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