Hey everyone,

Hope you all have had a good weekend. I'm a 41 year old male with what I would consider a fairly "healthy" sexual appetite for my age. I have recently ended a three and a half year relationship in which the sex life became intermittent. I'd like to casually date and have casual sex (safely) with making it clear, yet respectful, that I'm not looking for a relationship. My "concern" is that women in their 40's who may be seeking the same casual/friend with benefits type situation will seek the "younger" guys (e.g. cougar/cub) in maybe their late 20's/early 30's. What advice can you provide that can my age look less of a detriment for hook-up potential to a woman compared to the youthful benefits/appeal (e.g. stamina/shorter refractory periods etc) of a younger guy. Perhaps you may think my baseline thinking is flawed as well. I'll appreciate the advice either way. Thank you!-Jim