So, I’ve been full-on single for about 6 months now (almost 2 years since last serious relationship - the longest I’ve ever been “single”), and I’m having a terrible time pacing myself upon becoming actually interested in someone. I wouldn’t say I’m “picky”, but I am pretty selective with whom I invest time/energy into, so when I do find someone that really piques my interest, I have a really hard time letting things develop at a pace that seems natural. For example, I just started talking to someone about a week and a half ago, and it was going very well because I had been talking to a couple of other possible interests, and I wasn’t obsessing/being overbearing with this particular girl - I was actually following the “if you don’t ‘care’, there’s nothing to be afraid of” school of thought. And this was working pretty well, I was able to be flirty without any feelings tied up in it, and could actually be kind of carefree and bold. However, after hanging out with this person for the first time (we hung out at her place, talked for a few hours, made out a little, and cuddled), I found myself actually very interested in her. Since then, I’ve been a little more proactive in keeping the conversation going, but I’m afraid she might be pulling back a little (I’ve sent three texts, spaced out about a half-day/full day apart, and have gotten no response). I’m getting really concerned that I may have jumped the gun and gotten a little too comfortable, and that this may have thrown her off a little. How can I approach this situation and possibly save the little spark that I feel was definitely there, without trying to come off as being too eager?

I’m going to pull back a little bit and not text her today (the day after the third text without a response) and am going to try and make plans the following day to actually hang out (what would be our second time).

Any suggestions?