I met this guy in August. We hung out a few times, after our first hangout I allied him over we didn’t do much besides what you call dry hump with clothes and things progressed physically, but I wasn’t ready for full sex. He kept pushing for more, but I wasn’t comfortable since we hadn’t known each other long fast forward months we explored other things he started putting the tip in me (I’m not giving him penetrative sex). Over time, he became inconsistent with texting and calls—sometimes going days without reaching out, offering weak excuses like being with family or he wasn’t on his phone that much. I addressed it, and he’d improve briefly, but then fall off again. Now, our conversations feel shallow, and he only wants to see me at night, even though I’ve mentioned wanting to hang out during the day. I would say I was inconsistent in texting as well I’m aware I ignored the red flags, gave him too much access, and let too much of his bs slide and now I’m paying the price. Honestly it’s getting to a point our dynamic feels transactional like hes not putting effort but I’m giving my self to him, dumb on my part our dynamic is like very infatuated and lustful

Today I decided I’m so fed up

Him: bc i was trying to not bicker with you over something that we both suck at (texting) feels like that’s his excuse to not putting effort

Me: Yea I’m just talking about lack of inconsistency and you change the subject like it’s nothing and ask to hangout and see makes no sense

Him: you suck at texting me back n i do too are you going to change you replying faster ?

Me: that won’t change anything about you will it like at first it was whatever but now this is so meaningless

Him: so you’re getting tired of this ? do u even know what this is

Me: no do you care to tell me Im asking you to take initiative as a man and answer the question

Him: idk what we are we haven’t had this conversation yet but ik i like you and im guessing you like me but i have no idea what this is

Me: I assume you were never going to mention this conversation

Him: i was waiting til you were (like wtff he’s acting feminine)

Me: you keep saying I have to mention or start things first whats the deal?

Him: bc i always want to hear it from you first it’s just how i am

HERES THE TEA

Him: but yeah tho but i like how we are right now we can keep talking and see how things progress

Me: I think things have progressed rapidly all we’re doing is “hanging out”

Me: I don’t wanna do this anymore if that’s all you’re into (basically me sneaking him in). You’re telling me let’s keep talking and see how this progresses as if it hasn’t been half a year that’s a new low And it takes you half a year to know if you like someone or not?

Him: well we can take a bigger steps like idk i’ll make an effort to see you more during the day instead of only at night (this sounds like total bs)

Me: I don’t want to keep talking with you to see how things “progress” by now you should be firm on where you stand

Him: i wanna keep moving forward with you i said i like you and i want to continue moving forward with you I’ll change me actions

Me: never changed before even though I called you out on it, all I hear is talk I have nothing to talk about, I told you what I wanted and you can’t give it to me.

Him: i said i will give it to you i’ll put in more effort

That’s the final message. This is where i don’t know what to say or do or just let it go and not respond. Idk if i should believe another word that comes out of his mouth.